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life etc.

on self-fulfillment

When I graduated from university in May, I immediately missed its structure. I missed the predetermined schedule and the deadlines. I missed reading from textbooks and receiving grades for my hard work. Suddenly I was left to my own devices, and instead of having to complete assignments for a professor, I found myself in charge. I was now the one dictating my daily assignments and responsibilities, the one holding myself accountable for my projects. I was now both professor and student.

I can only take the university metaphor so far, but my real problem was I had no idea what my goals were. Finding a job was an obvious task I needed to accomplish, but I’d just spent the last seven years of my life learning and finding fulfillment through art and literature. My dreams felt as abstract as ever, and I found myself binge-watching Daria and Game of Thrones and ignoring the pressing need to find a creative outlet.

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real talk at 25

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Yesterday I turned twenty-five. I’ve been here a quarter of a century and lived to tell the tale. I have been a daughter, a musician, a friend, a partner, a slacker, an athlete, a fashion student, a sales associate, an English major, an editor, a freelancer, and a graduate with honors. Now I am a poet, a writer, a coffee drinker, a cat mother, a blogger, and a copywriter. The list goes on, and luckily it will continue to develop.

At twenty-five, I feel I’ve failed in many ways. I’ve wasted time. I’ve wasted money. I’ve lost friends. I’ve been a flake. At times I’ve said too much and others too little. I’ve broken promises. I’ve started projects and then abandoned them. I have also triumphed. I have written stories, essays, and poems that I am proud to call my creative work. I’ve gained new friends. I’ve read amazing literature that excited something deep within me. I’ve cried because a song or a sonata was too beautiful. I have traveled to Japan and China and France. I have lived many lives in these twenty-five years and, unfulfilled, I intend to live many more.

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lazy days

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Yesterday I ran some errands downtown—truly my least favorite place in the city—and so when I got home, frazzled by the chaos and never-ending construction that is Union Square, I needed to treat myself. I fired up the French press, cut a few slices of this cherry loaf cake that I made recently, and got into full laze mode with my current read (The Blind Assassin by Margaret Atwood).

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feminism: a call for change

The internet saw Emma Watson, a UN Global Goodwill Ambassador, broadcast an important message from the United Nations this week (Saturday the 20th, to be exact). At her HeForShe speech, she called upon men, boys, and society at large to stand up for feminism, a basic human right. Watson’s approach was simple: equality for the sexes does not just benefit one demographic or one group; it benefits everyone. Why should women be demeaned for speaking their mind? Why should men be emasculated by showing their feelings? These Medieval social mores are long overdue for a renaissance, and Watson does a beautiful job at crafting an appeal that does not leave anyone out. If you haven’t yet seen Watson’s speech, take twelve minutes out of your day to watch this budding activist push for a new standard, and check out the HeForShe homepage.

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back to school basics

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I really, really love office supplies. It’s silly, but buying them makes me feel productive. Despite the fact that I like simple black pens and creamy paper for note-taking, I need a dose of color to keep me excited about what I’m marking. I recently found these chunky little Stabilo Boss highlighters and they provide just the pop I need to stay focused and happy when reading. And with a pen and Moleskine in hand, I can take on the world!

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